That about sums it up.

As some of you may or may not know, care, or agree, I have a porn obsession. No, no, not the kind that makes me salivate for the streaming video of, say, The Tipsy Sheep, XHamster, or The Wetplace (the names of which I got from a google of the word “porn”), but the kind that keeps me up all night devouring the research and reflections of people like Gail Dines,  Robert Jenson, and others with the same goal. It’s finally time to come clean and tell the truth: I can’t count how many times I’ve awakened well after noon because I was up all night getting my rocks off to anti-porn sites.

No, no. It’s true. It’s better that you know now.

And it’s why this article that I stumbled across was so disturbing to me. Disturbing in the way that it is pornography apologist while claiming to be scientific. Here are some  juicy excerpts.

Sex drives men from puberty through old age. It is their “raison d’etre”, their purpose in life; to reproduce. Everything else is, well, fluff. It diminishes with age but never disappears. Sex is a primitive – primordial – urge. (more…)

I will make this admission: I . . . read feminist blogs.

No, no, it’s true. I mean it. And though some people may argue that it’s impossible to be a Christian and a feminist, let me tell you, I’ve found a way to manage it. The secret is that you must take one of them a la carte, which is what I’ve done with the latter. I suppose I would have to say I fit in best with the motives of a first wave feminist, even though that movement seems to have died out sometime around the time the Suffragettes ripped the vote out the clutches of the patriarchy with their bare teeth (a feat that, when I think of it, still instantly jellies my knees). But forget first waves and second waves and any other allusions to the sea.

The reason I am interested in so called “feminism” (though some of you may think that I misuse the term to characterize myself by it (and depending on who says it, I might even take it as a compliment )), is because I think that there issues that face women that, if not brought to the forefront and altered, will be issues for a long time to come. I believe in bringing those issues to light. I believe in a dialogue. I believe in equal pay for equal work, being aware of issues that face disenfranchised people, taking steps to assist victims of rape, incest, and domestic violence, ending the slave trade known as sex work, and changing the current socialization process that is injurious to both men and women.

As any feminist worth her weight will notice, those are only a cordoned off portion of the agenda laid out by most feminist groups. But there you have it. These colors don’t run but they’re more of the pastel pink variety.

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I don’t watch YouTube regularly. In fact, I stay away from it expressly, and that’s mostly because I’m afraid that I might accidentally stumble across some amateur porn or something that’s been snuck into the middle of a really juicy socially conscious diatribe against like . . . jerks who refuse to pass the Equal Pay Act or something. But luckily for me not everyone feels like that. While browsing a blog called Feminist Allies in my evermore crazed search for like minded bloggers, I came across this.

(Begins at 4:36. Tried to find one that only had the second segment but couldn’t.)

And though this particular selection isn’t entirely G-rated, I really enjoy the sentiment.  I like this description of love. It’s what I think of it myself.

Like a friend of mine said, “I’m a real sexual deviant: I’m a virgin.”

So the truth of the matter is that I should be in bed. Because I’m supposed to be at work tomorrow at nine a.m. and lately I’ve been staying up till seven in the morning and sleeping in all day. I’m on like . . . China time or something. But instead of doing that (and I WILL do it, okay? . . . yeah, in a dang minute so keep your pants on!), I logged on to LinkedIn, a networking site I have to admit I don’t really get yet. And there, believe it or not, as I’m browsing through Possible Connections in the Classmates section at Kent State University, I come across the profile of my first boyfriend.

JOLT.

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Welcome to the life of a born again virgin.

A little about me: I’m twenty eight years old and gave up my virginity when I was twenty. For no good reason, mind you. Of course, there are . . . pretty much no good reasons if you’re having sex outside of marriage. It doesn’t matter if you’re engaged to be married, or if you think you really really love someone, or what else. Sex is meant for your spouse, and that’s it. End of story, case closed. Check the Bible if you don’t believe me.

I feel I can speak on this with some authority, or at least more than enough experiential knowledge. Over the course of the past eight years, I’ve had several “lovers”, which is really just a clever, sweet sounding euphemism for sexual partners. I won’t go into the “why” right now, but let me try and explain the “then what”.

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